“Hate” is a strong word and it gives you a strong feeling. However, By the time passed and when you get older you are less likely to please others or will think twice before you waste your time on hanging out with negative people and you will not stand small talk and none of them mean you are alone. You will face that phrase of time where you go from having ten “close” friends to only one or two and there is probably a good reason for it.
Research has proven that people have fewer confidantes today than they did twenty-five years ago. Nearly fifty percent of people will confide in a close friend about a personal matter within a period of 6 months.
Here Is Why You Care Less for People As You Get Older
– You’re not interested in foolishness
When you have more life experience, you will learn more about yourself and the people around you. It might be difficult you to not to get caught up in a friend’s relationship woes or family drama when you are in your twenties. But over time, you notice the people’s lives and realize it is ok to step away from a situation rather than stick in it.
As you get older you will realize that getting involved might waste your time and energy. You won’t be able to help everyone and that’s not a personal matter. You will wish them the best without any hard feeling.
– You cannot stand wishy-washy people
You have probably heard this many times: “It has been too long! We must get together sometime!” In early adulthood, everybody actually means it and will use to say it often. It is easy to feel isolated while you are grappling with new scenery, new responsibilities, and new people in your life. However, as you get older, you need to say, “It is nice to see you”
– You want to do what’s truly important to you
While you are young, free and wild, it feels like you have all the time in the world. However, the older you get you will consider of doing the things that truly important to you. In your twenties, everyone would like to go to out with friends. But, as you get older you would rather spend time cooking a healthy dinner to surprise your partner or parents or thinking of how to bettering yourself.
– You don’t try to make new friends
Once you have graduated from school, your life does undergo a sudden and may be painful transformation. Where you previously spent each weekday with many people you have grown to know well, your opportunities for making new friendships become rarer as you get older.
In fact, it is difficult to make new friends in adulthood and you will not bother to do so. The friendships that you once believed would last a lifetime may gradually die out as people gain new family commitments and relocate for work.
You probably want to spend less time with your friends and more time with your family. That is how life is and it won’t remain same forever. We need to embrace changes in life. And it’s okay.
By: Anjala Senanayake